Ego-Defense Mechanisms

Posted March 6, 2016 by Matt
Categories: barriers, conflict, ego defense mechanisms, needs, psychology, stress

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This post is a summary of an article by Richard Von Gremmler: Ego-Defense Mechanisms

You can also listen to my daughter and I discuss the first few paragraphs of the article in this YouTube video: Ego-Defense Mechanisms Article Pt. 1


 

Egodefense mechanisms are emotional barriers that prevent us from consciously understanding most of our emotions, locking them in our unconscious. These ego-defenses “protect” us from experiencing stress beyond what we can handle.

However, each stressor that we are protected from will only get worse if not understood and resolved. This is further compounded by the guilt that results from each of these denials. Furthermore, our overall degree of stress will increase as we accumulate more and more unresolved stressors.

These accumulated stressors create tension, leading to emotional instability which can become overwhelming. And the greater the buildup of unresolved stressors, the stronger the ego-defenses must become, and the greater our emotional blindness. Navigating this situation becomes a puzzle of a “brilliantly clear blue sky”, where all the stressors are not only scrambled and distorted, but are like pieces of precisely the same color. Thus, we are unable to determine which specific stressors are responsible for which anxieties.

Furthermore, the greater our ego-defenses are, the greater our emotional needs will become. Because ego-defenses obscure our genuine emotions, it leaves us unable to experience, express and fulfill them. This creates a void, a neediness, from deep within that our disconnected conscious mind attempts to fulfill through arbitrary coping mechanisms (an example of an A influence). It makes us vulnerable to being controlled and manipulated by others in desperation to address our needs, and leads us to think and behave in ways which are in total contrast to our genuine emotions.

So, the moment we encounter a stressor (whether for the first time, or as a re-encounter) is the most critical juncture to be decisive. This is because we will either resolve it, or inhibit it through ego-defenses. And for each stressor we resolve, we will experience positive reinforcement. This provides motivational security as we move forward into accepting and working with greater stressors.

It’s a very normal fact of life in society that we experience a constant bombardment of emotional challenges and stress. But to be stabilized, these stressors must be thoroughly explored and resolved. This will then strengthen our conscious emotional environment, reduce the need for ego-defenses, and increase self-confidence for accepting and exploring future stressors.

two for one

Posted August 25, 2014 by Matt
Categories: Uncategorized

If everybody likes you, you’re doing something wrong. Whereas, the more we allow ourselves to express who we are, the more we become a lightning rod for the frustrations of negative individuals.

Furthermore, if we can experience this rejection without returning it, we leave the other person in a true dilemma. Whether to face their guilt or deny it. 

Theory #10

Posted January 10, 2014 by Matt
Categories: barriers, ego defense mechanisms, philosophy, psychology

The only real and lasting emotional harm that can befall us, is that which comes from our own barriers and ego-defense mechanisms. Our own fear. Without the presence of over-active barriers, we will grow from any emotional hurt and rejection that others give to us.

Theory #9

Posted January 24, 2013 by Matt
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One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is to be totally open to our feelings. To have the courage to experience any emotion without rejecting it. No matter how negative or traumatic it is. Especially when it’s about ourselves.

Theory #8

Posted January 15, 2013 by Matt
Categories: philosophy, psychology, spirituality

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There is no truth other than what is felt.  This is why myths contain more truth than facts and science.

Theory #7

Posted December 3, 2012 by Matt
Categories: avoidance, conflict, philosophy, psychology, spirituality

We should enjoy everything we do in life.  But due to our emotional constrictions, we avoid experiencing the depth of our conflicts.  Thus we hurt ourselves and others by choosing the superficial instead.  With enough constriction (emotional constipation) even simple things  become a burden.  Until nothing is enjoyable, except as a distraction.  Distractions then lead us to feel guilty, which leads to more distraction.  But in reality, with emotional freedom, everything is enjoyable.  Even work and chores, because we can feel the depth of positivism from things that may be superficially unexciting.

Theory #6

Posted November 14, 2012 by Matt
Categories: philosophy, psychology, spirituality, Uncategorized

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We are fundamentally irrational beings.  All of our logic has its roots in emotions, and never vice versa.  Everything exists in feeling.  Logic is a tool that can be used for guidance, for self-defense, attack, and as an escape.

As a great man once said: “you can be subjectively objective, but not objectively subjective.”


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